How to tell your friend about their cheating partner

This post features steps on how to tell a friend about their cheating partner

At some point in life we all gotta accept that some people are just for the streets. 

It may suck, and our hearts may not want to let go, but it is what it is.

Unfortunately, we all have (or maybe have been) that friend that just doesn’t get the memo.

And boy is it especially painful when you know something that bestie doesn’t.

Nobody wants to be the bearer of bad news.

And I can say from experience that it’s never as easy as ‘Girl I saw your man tongue down Tracey in the parking lot.’

No, a conversation like that requires nuance, empathy and possibly a triple serving of Ice-cream…

In all seriousness though, there’s a lot of things you wanna consider before you even think about opening your mouth.

Is this something they’d wanna know?

How are they gonna react?

And most importantly, how do you tell them?

It’s gonna be hard either way, and there’s no magical formula that fits every situation, but if you want an outline of how you could go about it I got you babes!

How to tell a friend their partner is cheating.

Don’t cry wolf

I cannot stress this enough. If you can’t prove it, don’t say anything. 

This person might trust your word with their life, but more often than not that cheater is also great at gaslighting. 

I guarantee you they’re gonna say it’s a misunderstanding or that you’re being crazy, and even the strongest people on earth will eventually fold under that pressure. 

If you’re gonna go around making claims, you gotta have your evidence to back it up. 

Your friend is just gonna end up being manipulated, and the emotional turmoil really isn’t worth it otherwise …

There’s a time and place for everything…

I can say from experience that being cheated on (although it shouldn’t) feels embarrassing. 

Don’t be out here dishing people’s private business for the world and their momma to hear.

Timing is crucial when having these conversations. 

Find an environment when your friend can be relaxed and free from other distractions. 

It’s also good to choose a private comfortable location where your friend feels safe to express their emotions in a judgment free space. 

Of course timing is never gonna be perfect, but you gotta know when to pick your battles.

Always Empathize 

Empathy is key in a conversation like this. Check-in with them as you reveal what you know, make sure they know that you’re there to support them. 

Basically, approach this conversation the way you would want someone to handle it if it was you.

Ask yourself ‘how would I want this to play out?’ And let your instincts guide you from there..

Be prepared for their reaction

Everyone processes things differently, and you can never one hundred percent predict what’s gonna happen.

They could be shocked, they could be in denial or be angry.

Whatever you do, be patient and allow them to express their emotions without judgment. 

The best thing you can do is offer a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on.

Respect their decision

Girl, mind your business..

Whatever they choose to do with the information you’ve given them is their prerogative. 

Don’t try to nudge them towards any particular decision or choice. Regardless of whether or not you wanna throw some hands, respect their autonomy and be supportive.

It’s their life, and their relationship at the end of the day…